Yeah, you read that right.
Today, I'm shifting from photography posts to write about something near and dear to my heart.
If you took time to read my About page, you will notice that in my fun facts, I admit - nay - I proudly testify to the fact that I have been watching Friends on repeat since about the same time I started my photography company.
Chandler, Monica, Ross, Joey, Pheobe & Rachel make for great background noise as I edit, okay?
Over the past 3 years, I've learned a lot from these six beautiful, fictional people.
I've learned that if you get married three times, your friends will never let you forget it. I've learned how to spell Phoebe (if you watch the show enough, you'll get that reference immediately). Along all of that, I find that Chandler, our sarcastic but lovable character teaches us some valuable lessons throughout the series.
Today, I'm reflecting on those valuable lessons that Chandler M. Bing has taught me.
1. Honesty is the Best Policy.
Chandler tells it like it is. From season 1, right until the very end. Heck, he opens the entire series by telling the gang about a VERY odd dream. He has no filter, no shame and has no problem keeping his friends humble.
Savage, but true.
In addition to keeping his friends - but mostly Joey and Ross - in line, Chandler is also very aware of his limitations as a person with emotions and ensures that his friends know just how much they mean to him.
No, this part didn't make me cry, it made YOU cry.
So yes, Chandler is savage, sarcastic and maybe even rude but he cares for his people with no boundaries and ensures that they know that firstly and foremostly.
2. How to Dance Like No One's Watching -- Even When They Definitely Are.
Remember when Rachel found out from Monica that her new boy toy was the best sex she ever had?
Then Chandler danced like this:
I don't blame him! For a guy who had no luck with women for almost the majority of the series, he struck gold with Monica. AND she stayed with him even when he danced like this!
Once again, Chandler is so self-aware! Definitely knows that dancing isn't his forte and admits to it wholeheartedly.
Chandler's iconic "flailing" dance moves have definitely inspired me over the years.
My fiance and I have definitely considered breaking out into that style of dance during the first dance at our wedding. We've also certainly busted a Chandler Bing dance move when we don't know how to dance to a certain song at a Manitoba-social.
Do we look ridiculous? Always.
Do we ever get bored? Never.
Yes, always yes.
3. Self-Care Is Important
Time to relax. Time to sit and do nothing. Time to catch up on your favourite TV shows.
For me, it's obviously Friends. For Chandler, it was Baywatch.
Throughout the 10 seasons of Friends, Chandler (and usually Joey) remind us how important that ME time is!
In a culture where companies such as Saje and Nordic Spas encourage us to take time for ourselves, breathe in essential oils, drink more tea and take more baths; Chandler proves time and time again that he was a pioneer in this way of thinking. (Minus the tea!)
Some might find his methods unhealthy. For example, the episode where he and Joey decided that they were not to be moved from their barcaloungers.
Here, you see them order their food to come to Monica & Rachel's apartment so that they don't need to move! This takes relaxation to that spectrum that borders on laziness, however, we also live in a world of Skip the Dishes so... we can't really judge.
4. Pets can enhance your life and build relationships
Or ruin your life and tear down relationships. It's a fine line.
Okay, this is where I lose people...
TO BE HONEST, I'm not a pets person.
My family had a cat from the time I was 5 until I was about 13. I loved that thing. He hated me, but I loved it endlessly.
What I loved the most about this cat was the fact that it took care of itself. We fed it in the morning and cleaned the litter box, we showed it love when he felt like being showed love and that was it. Easy peasy.
Dogs? Hamsters? Nah. Not for me.
Chandler and Joey both solidify this opinion for me. Joey impulse purchases a chick from a commercial ad around Easter time, then they decide to buy a duck because the chick will get lonely. It may not be the central focus of the show but this causes a lot of relationship-testing for Joey and Chandler.
You know how sometimes women will buy their man a plant to see if they can care for it?
I feel like it's the same with pets.
Couples *sometimes* get them to see if they can manage to care for another living being together.
(Whether they realize that's the intention or not!)
I feel that's what Chandler and Joey do here. They don't realize it but they use the chick and the duck to help them remain strong in their relationship and roommate-ship.
Remember when Chandler kisses Kathy and Joey is going to leave to go live with his folks and Chandler points to the chick and the duck and says, "If you're not going to stay for me, at least stay for them!"
5. Marry Your Best Friend
Ah yes, I went there.
Those of you who are as obsessed and weird as me follow the Chandler-Monica love story with passion.
They're the only ones I can really look up to in the series.
Rachel and Ross are all over the place, Phoebe's kind of weird with men and Joey --- well I'm convinced that the writers ran out of ideas when they tried to make Joey and Rachel a couple.
I've never looked into this further, but I swear that the writers from episode one knew that Chandler & Monica would eventually end up together. THERE WERE SO MANY SIGNS! The episode at the beach where Chandler is bugging her about dating him. Then him offering to have a baby with her if they both don't find anyone by the time they're 40. Then Monica being there to comfort him when he was in love with Kathy... AH! What a friendship-move!
I believe in this type of love, I really do.
Someone once told me that unicorns were their spirit animal and without missing a beat, I responded, "Chandler Bing is my spirit animal." and you know what? It's 100% accurate.
I hope that you enjoyed this quirky little article about my fictional soul-mate.
Let me know in the comments who your fictional bff/spirit animal is!
I love you, Chandler Bing!
I hope you read that in Janice's voice.)